i do realize I can be a bit annoying at the meetups sometimes, and well, I don't really have the energy to read people at 3 AM

just tell me that "i'm a bit loud" or whatever, and I'll realize things and stop,

just, like, tell me what I currently are doing that's annoying, but, crucially, don't tell me to stop unless you absolutely have to, because that's just going to cause RSD hell